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Getting Along with the In-Laws

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In-laws and your wedding. As it turns out, you aren’t just marrying one person, you’re marrying their entire family. That means their overbearing mother is now your overbearing mother-in-law, their over dramatic sister is now your over dramatic sister-in-law and their no-social-skills, creepy uncle is now your no-social-skills creepy uncle-in-law. So naturally, you’d like to be on everyone’s good side. Here are a few lessons to take with you after your wedding to keep things smoothed over with your new side of the family:

1.) Lay some ground rules. Take it from me, I have lived directly next door to in-laws at one time. When we first moved in she was stopping by all the time, and since I worked from home at that time, that meant my day was full of distractions. She’s stop by to drop something off, to say hello to the puppies, to ask my boyfriend a question. All innocent, of course, but still fairly intrusive. So before we both had a mental breakdown we laid a few ground rules; text us first before you come over, try not to come over before noon (I work mostly nights), and remember, we can’t miss you if you’re always here. Problem solved and we get along better than ever.

2.) Make sure family knows that decisions are made together. This way, one family can’t look at you or your spouse as the bad guy. Explain any large decisions from the perspective of both of you, and use the word ‘we’ as often as possible. “We both feel we’d rather stay in tonight” or “We’re waiting to have kids” make it clear that both of you are in agreement about the decision you have reached.

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3.) No choosing sides. When you agreed to spend the rest of your lives together, you agreed to stand up for each other through thick and thin. That means if you have a problem with your husband’s mother, he should take care of it and vice versa. You are responsible for each other’s happiness, and if that means an unpleasant conversation with a family member or two, so be it.

4.) “What happens in this house…” Before you ever get into a fight (yes, at some point in the next 30 years you will fight about something), discuss what will and won’t be shared with family. That way, the first time you run off to vent to your sister you won’t end up overstepping any boundaries. You know you both will need to talk to someone else for certain issues, but you both deserve an unwavering and agreed upon level of privacy.

5.) Pick your battles. Sometimes, it’s just not worth the trouble, and it’s better to just agree to disagree. There are going to be situations where compromise is just not an option. These situations are often politically or religiously affiliated, so know when you’re walking on shaky ground and watch yourself accordingly. If your grandma has a problem with the two of you living together, unmarried, you don’t have to hide it from her, just avoid bringing it up and rubbing her face in it every time you see her.

 

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Wedding Cliches to Keep

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In general, whenever you think of something that has been labeled as “cliché,” you’d probably do well to avoid it. And wedding clichés, as we all know, are some of the worst. I’m sure we can all think of a few times we’ve been sitting at a wedding thinking to ourselves, “I am definitely leaving (fill in the blank) out of my wedding.) However, as much as you may despise a few of these, you might want to leave them in, and we’ll tell you why.

1.) The Conga Line. Ugh. Take it from me, I can’t stand the Conga Line. I hate the feeling of putting my hands on a stranger’s shoulders or hips and having another stranger put their hands on mine. I hate how long it lasts. I hate everything about it. But I do it every time. I don’t know why, but I get up, I join the line and like everyone else I end up on the dance floor just as the DJ fades into a song I really do like and I end up dancing for at least 40 minutes. Sure the Conga Line is lame and embarrassing, but the whole point is to get people out of their chairs and on the dance floor, and (unfortunately for me) it works.

2.) The slideshow. Yes, it’s been done a million times, but as long as you do it right you should have nothing to worry about. So many times there are just pictures of the bride and groom, and who wants to stare at a bunch of pictures of the two of you for 15 minutes? Not fun. However, since you’re surrounded by all of your friends and family, choose to include pictures that include them as well. Choose the picture of your dad helping you learn to walk, of your fiancé and his college buddies at their senior football game and of you and your sister at prom. By choosing the right pictures you’ve now included everyone at your wedding into the slideshow, and now it actually means something to everyone.

3.) The overplayed first dance song. Countless wedding sites will tell you not to play At Last by Etta James, Unforgettable by Nat King Cole or You Are So Beautiful by Joe Cocker, but who cares. If you have a special meaning to that song, dance to that song at your wedding! Not only will your song never go out of style (those songs are classics for a reason), but you’ll also be guaranteed a dance to it at many other weddings, and what’s wrong with being constantly reminded of your love for one another?

4.) Thumbprint trees. Thumbprint trees are those little things by the guestbook you often see. The guest presses their thumb into a specific color of ink and then presses it on the “tree” somewhere creating their own “leaf.” Then they sign their name next to their thumbprint. The couple usually frames it later. So why do it: because it makes a beautiful piece of art of all the people that came to your wedding. Does it really matter if it’s cliché?

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